Surrender to life! Live your life to the fullest! More easily said than done. We like controlling as much as we can, we like directing our lives and we like telling others how to live theirs. Now how can you stop interfering? Simply stop, other people’s lives are none of your business. Like Byron Katie explains: ‘Is it your responsibility?’. Often not. How can you then focus on living your life? Live your life to the fullest!
Less is more
I would like to suggest: ‘Less is more’. Do less, want less and enjoy more. Everything we do is a choice. Like a card stated that I drew the other day: ‘Even under the most complicated circumstances, you have a choice. You are never a victim’. Even though we sometimes use this archetype to manipulate a situation to get what we desire. Thus, what other attitude can you cultivate to lead the life you wish to lead?
‘Ishvara Pranidhana, the jewel of surrender,
presupposes that there is a divine force at work in our lives.’[i]
Look, this is the way I see it. We simply came to this world and we will leave it one day. Everything in between seems insecure and chaotic at times. Like somebody once said to me too: ‘The only certainty that we have in life, is that everything is uncertain’. We just have to deal with that fact.
I also know that we all handle this ‘truth’ differently. There are so many religions and ways of life and they have all found their explanation to deal with life and death. I like the thought that we understand our lives backwards. We live it first and then from time to time when we look back at a period we see the path that is unfolding. What to do? Surrender!
Now how to deal with this ever unfolding path? In the last ethical code (Niyama) of the Yoga philosophy they talk about surrendering to life: ‘Ishvara Pranidhana, the jewel of surrender, presupposes that there is a divine force at work in our lives’. It is about surrendering, actively participating in life and being present. It is also about moving through life with trust, gratitude and devotion whilst embracing the mystery of life and appreciating its greatness.
Find your ‘flow’
‘Great’ you might think, ‘…but what does this mean truly?’. Do activities that make you forget about time or space. That’s your ‘Yoga’. It will feel like becoming one with what you do. It is also referred to as being in a flow. This harmonious feeling will make you realise that when surrendering to an activity, you can feel oneness. So find your ‘flow’. Important here is that you dare to let go of control. It really asks for daring to stop fighting life and being part of it instead of against it: ‘As we learn to stop fighting life, we can begin to act skilfully [ii]’.
When you try to surrender, do you then also feel resistance? This resistance means you are fighting what is happening. What about feeling positive energy flowing through you? You are then opening up to life and allowing it to be the way it is. It is important to become aware of these signals.
When you allow yourself to do less and to be more present, can you then feel gratitude and wonder for what is present in your world? Can you appreciate all that life has given you? Take some silent time. Sit still. Do nothing. Can you see that life is supporting you? Deborah Adele explains in her book that it is about moving from ‘being careful’ to ‘being carefree’. Can you do that?
You can see it all as being on a boat that is floating on a river. You are that boat. The water is the flow of your life. Sometimes you will find yourself in the port; safe & sound. Sometimes your boat will be stuck on a rock, in the sand or on a bank. Sometimes your boat will find itself in a rapid and sometimes in a quiet current. What to do? Right, surrender. That is all you can do: ‘Surrender is knowing ourselves to be part of this Divine Oneness and then giving ourselves over to his great whole. We find in the process that we do not lose ourselves, but instead become part of the greatness itself’ [iii].
How to slow down? Simply take a break and do Yin Yoga.
Sit still. Stretch. Breathe. Continue.
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©This blog is inspired by a book from Deborah Adele: The Yamas and Niyamas, Exploring Yoga’s Ethical Practice.
[i] Source: The Yamas and Niyamas, Exploring Yoga’s Ethical Practice, Deborah Adele.
[ii] Source: The Yamas and Niyamas, Exploring Yoga’s Ethical Practice, Deborah Adele.
[iii] Source: The Yamas and Niyamas, Exploring Yoga’s Ethical Practice, Deborah Adele.